Finger Waggers

Sometimes blog posts are just handed to me. Other times, I have to dig deep to find something intelligent to say. Today's post was brought to you by...the finger wagger.

You know the finger wagger.

She just has to tell you the way it's going to be,
and you're going to listen!

She's probably wrong.

That matters not.



I have a thing about listening. I'm not super great at it and I don't generally listen to mean people. It's like life challenges me with having "why" be my question and then places finger waggers before me to see just how reserved I can be.

Let's talk about "why" being my question.

We all have a question. Some of us like to know why, not because we are going to do anything with the why. Rather, it gives depth and understanding to the situation. I can explain, when I know why. Most people hate why, by the way, particularly those who either lack confidence or haven't done their research. I've started phrasing why another way for those who can't handle why: "Tell me more..." "What led you to make that decision..." "Is this a flexible thing?" They still hate why.

There are other questions, like how - how it works, how it impacts this or that, how it'll help. And, where. You get it. But why, that's almost a naughty word. As though I am asking you to dig in to the depths of your soul and paint me a mural of your utmost inner being. Nope. I'm just hoping to understand.

Maybe I need a sign. Not like a "Here's your sign" (although that is tempting). More like a "Warning: I may ask why, so that I understand, not because I am challenging you." Or, "Warning: don't interact with me if you can't back up your statements, because you'll get frustrated when I want to know more." Or, "Warning: We're all professionals here. Dick's a professional. Don't be a dumbass. Be like Dick. Be a professional."

The latter might be a little suggestive.

Maybe...maybe. Maybe, we all ought to assume positive intent and give each other a chance. Maybe, there are people seeking to understand this world and help other people. I know for sure there are people out there who know more than me. I like to surround myself with those people, because I am positive that I have far more to learn in my life. Except, which finger to wave. That one, I know pretty well.